Is Happiness a Decision?
When I am feeling down I think to myself what can I do to be happier? I like to do research and read many articles and self-help books on this particular subject. Is happiness a decision I make? Or… Do my emotions control whether I am happy or not happy? To be happy, is it a conscious decision one I have full control over? Even if I am in the darkest place, no matter how hard it is, can I consciously make my self-feel happy?
I tend to lean toward Eckart Tolle for these kinds of profound questions. I trust his insight and wisdom so much!
In Eckhart Tolle’s book Excerpted from *Oneness with All Life
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral, which always is as it is.
There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts. For example, “I am ruined” is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. “I have 50 cents left in my bank account” is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering.”
What an amazing, and intelligent answer that sums up the question perfectly! An answer that could literally change your life and help you feel better! I love Eckhart Tolle he is such an inspiration!
So this is the way I interpret the answer to the question, Is happiness a decision?
Happiness is not really controlled by your emotions, and the way you are feeling, but your thoughts, about what you are thinking. Happiness can be the emotions that are within you.
When you are in a bad place, you can make the decision to change your mind about what you are thinking, and you may be able to find a silver lining. Separate yourself from the situation, and get in touch with your inner self.
I think some people choose to wallow and believe it is your responsibly to change the thoughts running through your head. If you think about it you can’t choose how you feel, but you can make an effort of feeling happy.
Let me know what you think and leave a comment below. 🙂
*Oneness with All Life Published by arrangement with Dutton, a member of Penguin Group (USA),
Inc. Copyright © 2008 by Eckhart Tolle
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