One of the most courageous decisions you”ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul. ~ Brigitte Nicole
Sooner or later, you will fall deeply in love. So in love, you are lifted to another place.
Though, over time, your connection with this person feels lost, almost broken.
Of course, you understand that relationships are work, arguments are normal, and relationships go through rough patches.
Still, something doesn’t feel right.
Every argument you have is draining amidst your partner’s verbal and emotional insulting.
As well, you feel bullied into things that your partner wants to do, and if you disagree, your significant other gets angry and mocks you.
Not to mention, you can’t even talk with your significant other about issues that concern you, leaving you feeling anxious and disregarded. Your heart is broken, and you feel lost, not knowing what to do?
As a result, you’re not your self anymore desperately trying to please and giving all you know how to your partner.
What Does Emotionally Abuse Feel Like
You lie awake every night wondering what you did wrong and how you can fix it. Only to be left feeling anxious, every day trying to please.
It is really hard for you to understand why your partner fell out of love and is treating you like this? Where did the love go? Deep inside, you hope things will go back to the way they were a long time ago.
You hope things will go back to normal.
Sadly, your personality changes. You have low self-esteem, and your state of mind shifts to negative.
No doubt, it is time for you to realize that your partner is not treating you lovingly. If the relationship held Love, then you would be feeling more at peace, joy and happiness.
When there are more hurtful words said in your relationship than positive words, there is something you need to change.
You MAY need to let go of what is hurting your heart and Soul.
What Can I Do to Help Myself in a Toxic Relationship
After all, I didn’t realize something was wrong in my relationship. I became so used to being treated like this, and I thought it was normal. Eventually, I understood I was in a toxic relationship that wasn’t healthy.
By all means, I experienced all these emotions too. It is important to realize that you can break free. Often, I felt paralyzed in the relationship mostly because I had been treated like that for so long. For some reason, I didn’t feel I was numb, and I didn’t see my life any other way.
Let go to what’s hurting your heart and soul
Furthermore, it doesn’t matter what you do to try and fix the relationship. It leaves you feeling even more distressed. In the meantime, your heart is breaking, and the pain in your heart unbearable. If you don’t end things now, you might completely lose yourself.
Do you want to be dragged down by a negative person who belittles you and never sees the good in you? It’s time to Let go of what is hurting your heart and soul! You have to cut it off before it crushes you.
Nevertheless, the thought of being alone scares the hell out of me!
Still, if you don’t end things now, you might completely lose yourself.
He Treats Me Badly but I Still Want Him
Why do I still love him when he mistreats me? If you are feeling isolated and continuously upset in your relationship, something is wrong. Everyone has their bad days, but when bad days become every day, and it poisons your happiness, you need to take inventory of your relationship.
When your partner belittles, shames, name calls, this is not good. In a sense, he is robbing you of who you are. He is taking all your power away, which truly is a way to control you in the relationship. Know this is unhealthy and toxic, and it may be time to let go.
When we become used to everyday nastiness, or unkind behaviour, we forget what it is like to feel at ease and feel normal. What happens is it leaves you in a constant state of anxiety. That’s not good for you or the people around you, especially if your kids see it every day.
Letting Go of a Relationship or Ending Toxic Relationships
It’s hard when you trusted this person with all your heart.
“I trusted this person with all my heart and soul, but he was destroying the person I knew myself to be.”
You forget who you are, getting lost in all the turmoil, leaving you feeling miserable. Help yourself now! It is not about the person that is treating you like this. It is about You getting away. The longer you stay, the more you make it alright for them to mistreat you.
It’s time to get your life back and love yourself. It’s time to move on in a positive light.
You are Responsible for Your Happiness
Overall, I am a happy person! I love my kids, and I loved my life. The past years have been crazy, and I realized to fix my situation, I needed to look deeply into my situation.
Can I Leave Someone After All These Years?
Where will I go?
Should I uproot my kids?
Can I support my family on my own?
Honestly, it is the most difficult decision in my life!
In my case, it is emotional and psychological abuse. Lifting your self-confidence is hard when verbal comments and name-calling is surrounding you.
I have seen a counsellor for the past year, which has helped me cope with my dwindling self-esteem.
Also, I would recommend you do that too.
It is Not About Being a Victim Anymore
- Now is the time to be positive and to look at the rest of your life.
- It is time to be brave and stop feeling like a victim.
- Be practical, but do what it takes to get you there.
- Like I said before, see a counsellor. (Often you can go at no cost if that is what is holding you back.)
- Talk to a close friend, sibling or your parents. They are closest to you and will understand.
- So please, if there is someone in your life that is hurting you, get help. If you know someone in this situation and You don’t know what to do, suggest a counsellor.
- You don’t need to live like this. You need to let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.
Leaving Will Change Your Life for the Better
Safety is crucial but if you feel it’s safe, Set an Intention or goal when you are ready to leave.
Today, I continue to stay positive as I work through this journey, still it is hard. I know on the other side of this, my life will be much happier. I hope you find inspiration in my words.
If you are in this situation what have you done to feel better?
Please leave a comment and let me know if you have challenges with a negative person.